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Couples Counselling: Beyond Conflict Resolution

Beyond Conflict Resolution

When I ask couples what they want to get from counselling, their top two wishes are usually to improve communication, and to stop arguing so much. They just want to get on better. And couples counselling can really help with that. But to make a lasting difference,

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Separation Counselling: Why “Shall We Go For Counselling Or Split Up?” Is The Wrong Question

Separation Counselling

What is separation counselling? Isn’t couples counselling all about making it work?

If your relationship has broken down, you might be considering your options. Perhaps you have been thinking about trying couples counselling. On the other hand, maybe you feel like it’s too late to go for counselling together,

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Thinking About Depression: Are You Using Your Time To Get What You Need?

Thinking About Depression

When I think about depression and low moods, and how to find a way out of them, I look at at three things: feelings, thoughts and actions.

As an integrative counsellor I consider both the causes of depression and the approach to getting better from a number of angles.

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Why Talking Therapy? Book Recommendation: Emotional Agility by Susan David

Talking therapy like counselling is still a bit of a mystery to many people. You might have questions like: Does talking therapy work? How? I feel terrible! How will talking about how bad I feel possibly make me feel better?

I recently read a fantastic book by Susan David,

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How To Resolve Arguments Constructively

How To Resolve Arguments Constructively

Sometimes despite our best intentions to raise difficult issues gently, things can escalate. Arguments can quickly become stressful and unproductive, especially when we are stuck in bad patterns. Most of us don’t get taught how to deal with horrible rows! But learning how to resolve arguments constructively can save you a lot of stress and heartache.

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How To Raise Difficult Issues With Your Partner

How To Raise Difficult Issues With Your Partner

Is there something going on in your relationship that’s bothering you? Are you unsure how to address it? Firstly, by looking for a way to talk about it, you’re doing the right thing. John Gottman has been doing research with couples for 40 years,

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Do I Need Counselling?

Do I Need Counselling?

“Do I need counselling?” It’s a question lots of people ask themselves at one time or another. Maybe you have been through a tough time lately. Or perhaps you just haven’t been feeling great.

There are lots of reasons to try counselling.

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Assertiveness Counselling

People come for counselling for a number of reasons. You might have a clear goal, such as to become more assertive, and be looking specifically for assertiveness counselling.

Whatever your reason is for having therapy, the experience will help you get to know yourself better. As that happens,

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Self-Care Ideas

When We Need Self-Care Ideas

Often I work with people who have been struggling with depression and/or anxiety for a long time. Maybe you have felt like this too: been in survival mode, feeling like you’re all over the place, just about coping. Managing to get through the days,

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The Three People That Make Up You

One of the ways that counselling works is by offering a framework for you to make sense of yourself, your life and your difficulties. Finding out about yourself can help you feel better about yourself, which is often one of the main aims of people coming for counselling. Most people also find that the better able they are to understand themselves,

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